I don’t think respect must be given to someone on the impression that he/she is superior to you in a certain way, like in terms of wealth or education. Respect is something that must be earned, and most importantly, I tend to believe that respect is something you should give in the same manner as you receive it from someone else. I might sound little imperious here, as my statement sort of represents a sense of arrogance. In other words, you may feel asking – okay, I get that. You mean to say if someone else is disrespecting me, I should return the favor in the same manner of conduct. Is that right?”
Well, if you ask me this question that would be hard to argue because even I believe that respect is counterproductive when you have given it to someone who has disrespected your respect. According to Gandhian philosophy if someone has hurt you in a way causing you an immense loss of emotional or mental peace, show the person love and kindness instead of your hatred in return of his ill-treatment.
I am not entirely a Gandhian type of guy because I have not the unfathomable gravity of patience like him. In today’s context, if you try to see people and their conduct, you kind of imagine that your way of respecting them would fall on deaf ears as not all of them are considerate enough to appreciate the value of your good-natured treatment. This is because people are driven
This is because people are driven to their own ego, and anything or anyone that may sound or appear hurting their ego in certain way would be treated badly, to an extent of their hatred. I believe that respect should be given to someone when that person really appreciates the virtue of what an honor stands for.
Let me narrate a story…
I was travelling in a bus where one of my fellow passengers was blurting out some godforsaken jibes at the driver, cursing his inability to drive carefully. He was of opinion that if the drive were careful enough to dodge other vehicles hitting the road heading to the same direction as his vehicle, he would probably drive far ahead of them, bringing us closer to our destination.
I could not stand his ill-informed judgment and ventured out my opinion humbly – how can you talk like that? Do you have any idea what you are suggesting? You are suggesting the driver should overtake other vehicles on this busy road fraught with many vehicles? What if the driver lost control on the bus? Do you know the result of it? Instead of appreciating my questions, he snapped at me, asking – “Hey, you speak like a chicken-hearted fellow who
Instead of appreciating my questions, he snapped at me, asking – “Hey, you speak like a chicken-hearted fellow who is scared of the speeding vehicle. I have taken personal enjoyment to witness when a vehicle speeds past other vehicles leaving them far behind. God, it was a sight of utter thrill.”
“So what? It doesn’t mean you should provoke the driver to overtake other vehicles just because you want to head your home in a hurry. Just sit tight and let him do the job.” On being rebuked by me, the passenger seemed to have lost his temper, and in a fit of rage tried to call me by names until the driver himself got up from his driving seat.
Holding the passenger by the collar, a row of slaps landed on both the cheeks of the maniac passenger, sending him into the whirlwind of some other form of thrill. The slaps were accompanied by some cuss words for the passenger which I don’t want to elaborate here, but the point of the whole conversation was that I really lost my respect for that fellow, considering his inability to appreciate the sanity of other fellow passengers.
I honestly believe that you should not demean your respect when the favor of which is not returned in the same etiquette. Well, I won’t force you to be stingy in your manner of respecting other people, but if someone tries to belittle it for some unknown reasons or his madness, it is better to get the drift and follow your way.